Are you aware of the 'scripts' that shape your story?  (Why you do what you do)

Are you aware of the 'scripts' that shape your story? (Why you do what you do)

“People may spend their whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to find, once they reach the top, that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall.”

Thomas Merton


In 2013, a Gallup poll revealed that for eighty-seven percent of the workforce, work is more often a source of frustration than fulfilment in that workers felt emotionally disconnected from their workplaces. 

What can be more important than having self-worth, purpose, and passion in one’s life? I am convinced that for the overwhelming majority of us, we do not find what we were put on this planet for in Act One Scene One, but rather much later on in our lives. 

We have all had a ‘why?’ moment at some point but it is hard to find that ‘why?’ when you are older and patterns of behaviour have become so entrenched. We end up making assumptions about the way things should be.  Questions are no longer asked.  Options are no longer considered. Reacquainting yourself once again with who you are and what makes you tick is all-important.

For most of us, the first half of life is about our ‘Darwinian’ need to ‘survive successfully’.  We do what gains us approval from our peers, teachers, role models, parents, and other influential authority figures.   We do more and more of whatever causes those around us to say: “So and so has done well.”

Such success typically includes getting a job, earning money, finding somewhere to live, buying a car, holding down a significant relationship, becoming parents and perhaps indulging in a holiday abroad now and then.  These are all good things and often a necessity but there comes a time in life when we need to scrutinise these extrinsic goals and scripts because we either succeed or fail at them only to discover in the words of an American monk that:

“People may spend their whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to find, once they reach the top, that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall.”

Thomas Merton

This moment of ambiguity and anxiety sets the stage for what I like to describe as a “Life Pivot”.  

A pivot is a turn or rotation.  It is constantly used in entrepreneurial circles to describe what happens when a ‘start-up’ has followed business Plan A but things simply are not working well.  Despite these shortcomings, there is ample data to wade through and more importantly, to learn from.  Based on what the entrepreneur now knows to be true about the reality and the way things work, the opportunity presents itself for him or her to change the game and follow a new and more fruitful trajectory.   

This book is about how we can understand ourselves better and follow a new and more fruitful trajectory that mirrors our unique capabilities and passions, weaknesses and limitations, our personality and the often overlooked matter of motivation.

We are all a work in progress, our journeys are utterly unique and we each have vast quantities of ‘data’ (aka experience) to learn from.  There may be dreams you chased that just did not happen for whatever reason, and there may be times you felt more alive than words can describe and you never told a living soul because it sounded childish.  Maybe you feared being labelled a ‘Walter Mitty’, a dreamer, with your head in the clouds.

The front cover of this book reads, ‘How do I answer the question, what should I do with the rest of my life?” In this book I want to share how you might go about answering that question. I will not present simplistic answers but rather I will challenge you to treat your journey like an archaeological dig as I present strategies, tools and guidance on where you might start digging.  If the only achievement from you reading this book is to validate the idea that you are meant to flourish by being one hundred percent yourself then I will have done my job.

 I will draw your attention to many thoughts and wise words I have gleaned from various places which together I hope will form a symphony of wisdom that can help you the way they have helped me.

There are five different questions each having a chapter of their own in the middle of this book.  These questions are: 

A.    What am I passionate about, (animated and energized by)?


B.    What am I gifted and uniquely capable at (including skills)?


C.     What weaknesses and external limitations exist? (These are just as real and influential as my strengths and opportunities)


D.    What is my basic personality type? (We cannot change our basic personality type)


E.    What motivates me? (Motivations change in different seasons)

Each of these questions will help you ‘peel the onion’ of your true self and uncover the reality of who you are.  Be prepared to be surprised as you are far more uniquely capable and passionate than you realise. 

If each of these questions were to produce a corresponding set of coordinates for a map, then by the end of this book you will have put yourself onto this map in the form of five clear truth statements.  Drawing a line through those five points on the map should provide you with the direction you are seeking.

In public spaces like zoos, we find large maps.  The first thing the visitor does is a search for the words ‘You are Here’.  Without knowing that the map is useless.  In this book, I hope to help you position yourself on a map of sorts by seeing yourself as you really are (warts and all).

Perhaps you have picked up this book because you feel there is more to you than your current job or situation offers, or there are seeds of something deep down inside of you that you are yearning to release but you do not know where to start.  

I have written this book because I am convinced that human beings are designed to flourish. And, when we flourish those around us also flourish and the ripple effect on the world around us is immeasurable. 

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